No Guessing Allowed!

So many people try to “Guess” what other’s in their lives want or need. This “Guessing” is mainly a Self-Centered and destructive idea and practice) among Families and in Society as a whole. Among Families (Those who really care for each other, at least emotionally and mentally) “Guessing” what someone else needs or wants usually leads to conflict, argument or even war. To be a true follower of Jesus Christ, “Guessing” is NOT allowed! The right way is to “Ask Directly”. Then, “Listen” and more important, “Remember and DO” the preferences told you by God and others. IF you Love someone then you will remember and do the things that THEY want and need from YOU (As long as these things do not go against God’s Word’s). And, that will make your relationships work much better. You must sacrifice your own ideas about what you think is best for them in order to follow Christ and learn to truly Love His way. Yes, it is difficult, but not impossible. So, think and Pray on it and then Act on this advice. God will let you learn (If even through suffering) to do it better and better. None of us are or will be “Perfect” in this earthly life. But, no excuses! Jesus will teach us more and more until His Kingdom has come. So, do not give up even if it takes you the rest of your earthly life! You WILL be eventually victorious! Remember, Try (Not a four letter word) to keep learning the things that those you love really want and need from you. Then, memorize (Or, write them down) and then DO them consistently! That will bring you (By means of The Holy Spirit) and them closer. Talk, Listen, Learn, Remember and Do! THAT is the way to a victorious way of love. Follow Jesus Christ and just as I too am learning, you will also in time. I am merely a messenger, not yet perfected, but I do know much about this subject. Now, for a real personal example from my life: I several times told my Wife that I only like a certain kind of Pizza to eat (Name Brand withheld for confidentiality). But, she thought she could “Guess” better and bought another brand (That I had previously told her) that I do not like. So, what happened? Another episode of heated discussion! OK, I admit that it is a small problem. But, can you the reader see how this Principle can cause a really big problem in your relationships? I do hope so. I do! The greater Principle as I see it, is to have relationships like our relationship of love with Jesus Christ. When we learn and keep practicing these simple steps: TALK (Pray and Ask), LISTEN (Meditate), LEARN (Study the Bible), REMEMBER (Write and memorize and seek Godly counselors), and DO (Trust God, admit your wrongs and help other’s) THEN, we all will experience better relationships. And, I am still learning too! I am learning that honest and open communication, coupled with, “Remembrance and Action” (Not wrong reaction) on my part, is the answer to both small and big relational problems. And, there is more! But that must be discussed with me later. For now, it is “One Step At A Time” (As 12 Step Programs say). Please write (Join our Blog) your replies. Blessings in His Name. Pastor Smitty